Meant to be

I just came across this very interesting blog (in general, check it out), and the three posts about whether adoption is "meant to be."

You know that I've struggled with exactly this issue, and these discussions raise a lot of important questions for me.

Is there a way that we could say that of all the adoptive parents possible, we were meant to be Baby E's, as opposed to he was meant to be our son (and hence the wrong tummy problem)?  This reminds me of the linguistic difference that I make - I don't call Baby E my adopted son, I say I am his adoptive mother.  We don't say he was adopted, we say we adopted him.  I want the focus to be on me and my life, not him.

I do believe in the sanctity of Mama B's choice.  I have absolute faith in her.

Here's the first post, second, and third. Read the comments, they're amazing!