New era

Since the new year, our adoption has undergone an enormous change. While - before - we only knew his name, we are now in contact with Baby E's birthfather, Papa A.

It's been an intensely emotional experience, but in only a few brief encounters so profound too. We've had to face our own fears and insecurities, which has been humbling. I've struggled with my need to make everyone feel "okay" about the adoption and the pressure that puts on me.  And we've wrestled with a new understanding of the circumstances of the adoption and the decisions his birthmother made.


But it's all worth it, because we've learned so much about Papa A and his family that we can now share with Baby E when he gets older.  It's such a deep relief to be able to say "We know that Papa A loves you."